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NBSB ang eksena ng ating letter sender ngayon. Dapat nga ba s’yang matakot na sa edad na 23 ay hindi pa sya nagkakaroon ng boyfriend? Ating alamin ang maipapayo nila Miong at Julieta.
Dear Miong and Julieta,
Ako po ay NBSB.
No Boyfriend Since Birth.
Sa tingin ko naman po e hindi ako panget. Kahit papano naman din po e may nag ka ka crush na sa aken. Yun nga lang po, hanggang crush lang sila.
Hindi din naman po ako tibo.
Pano po ba yan? 23 years old na po ako. Hindi ko din po kasi lubos maisip na tatanda akong dalaga.
Tama lang po ba na matakot ako?
Salamat po at sana ay matululungan nyo po ako sa aking problema.
Gwyneth
Hey Gwyneth,
Focus ka na lang muna Gwyneth sa kung ano man ang meron ka.
Iyan ang hirap sa aten e. Lagi nating inirereklamo ang mga bagay (o tao) na wala tayo at minsan ay pumapalya na tayong pahalagahan ang bagay nating pinanghahawakan.
Kung wala kang boyfriend, at least wala ka ding poproblemahin. At least sa iyo lahat ang sweldo mo. At least makakoconcentrate ka sa iyong career.
Minsan, kailangan mong utuin ang iyong sarili na tunay ang tadhana.
Na ang pagibig ay hindi hinihintay. Yaan ay kusang dumadating.
Pagkainip would do you no good.Just live by the day. And make the most out of it. 🙂
MIONG
Dear Gwyneth,
Correct ka diyan Miong, ang mga bagay bagay katulad ng pag-ibig ay hindi minamadali, kusa nga itong dumarating.
Huwag mo masyadong katakutan na wala ka paring boyfriend hanggang ngayon, malay mo malapit na rin syang dumating. Alam kong hindi maiwasang mag-isip ng ganyan ngunit bata ka pa naman .
Focus ka nalang muna sa ibang bagay at wag pakaisipin iyan, ika nga sa isang libro – “love is what happens when you’re busy making other plans”.
Stay happy ka lang Gwyneth. 🙂
Wishing you well,
JULIETA
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I am absolutely a lover of poems and one of my favorite of all time is that entitled “How Do I Love Thee.” I learned it from high-school and it is not your poem just to recite. As serious as the message of this poem is, is the pit the generation of my age and the ones younger get themselves into. Poems they say like songs, influences emotions. Indeed! It does like this poem I knew from my junior year in high-school. I myself should say it used to drive my imaginations into fairytale in which I am the princess and the story went on… 😀 That was years ago…However, growing old, I found it so surreal but growing up I found out that it is either one will love or be loved like this or he/she is fooling others or is self-deceived…
How Do I Love Thee? (Sonnet 43)
by Elizabeth Barrett Browning
How do I love thee?
Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of being and ideal grace.
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need,by sun and candle-light.
I love thee freely, as men strive for right.
I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints.
I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life;
and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
Without memorizing this poem’s lines, one would get the message of it if he/she really loves in the essence of the Word lest one deceives himself of loving the person yet really just adoring love, the feelings and satisfaction which are bonuses of love which had long been mistaken as love itself .In this earth, Love will always be undefined. The Word of GOD described it but it id not define it for it is indescribable like GOD…In it’s most genuine form, it is a verb. Rather than trying hard to define love, the author count the ways of love after describing it in his poetic expression-“to the depth and breadth and height my soul can reach “It may sound exaggerated but unless you can love this way, you cannot love at all…
It is an inch less than how a Recipient of Divine Love is loved- “No depth and breadth and height ” can separate the Recipient from his SUPREME LOVER…You can’t give so less from what you have been given. SO if you haven’t receive that Free Gift, how can you give Love? The love mentioned in the poem knows no boundaries as age, looks territory, other person’s flaws or anything else. For a love with limit is a love that exalt no grace but benefit of self and pride to feel good in doing his part. People call themselves “in love” in respect to “feeling” which consistency is a good as the weather but the author holds to love even “when feeling out of sight ” . Sometimes whether it is caused by the other person, other parties or self; we will not feel like in love but the author refused to base on feelings or anything other than Love. How much, can the author love like this and how much? Well if we are talking about True Love for the “ends of being” which may mean life or very own being “and ideal grace” may refer to the way he receives that ideal grace only GOD can give -the GOD whose provision includes His very self, Love is not about self but the other person blessed and not about merely the other person satisfying you.
Can you say ” I love thee to the level of every day’s most quiet need,by sun and candle-light.”? Like you are secured you can continue loving the person day and night? A lot of you would say “yes”. Loving a person should may mean you intend to be Right person than seeking that someone loves you like such he is the right person. The same with the one who profess he/she loves you. How else we would now? If you can see yourself committed PURELY to GOD for the other person, can picture together even when the other person looks utterly old and therefore the beauty you once knew is gone, willing to remain faithful when feelings changes when offended, ready to forgiveness when others fail thus willing to get married in case romantic tie is involved ….
Get married? Isn’t it too early when you haven’t known the person too long? Isn’t it just an accessory to relationship? Yes getting married. Some say, they don’t want to be tied when they are already emotionally, even burdened without assurance. What could be the best avenue than friendship? One will say, Can’t we be both friends and lovers at the same time? Again the answer would be :if you can see yourself committed PURELY to GOD for the other person, can picture together even when the other person looks utterly old and therefore the beauty you once knew is gone, willing to remain faithful when feelings changes when offended, ready to forgiveness when others fail thus willing to get married, you can be. Why stay with someone who is uncertain to long to be with you for life or why hurt someone who is when you are not?
Here is the line I don’t think many will find significant: “I love thee freely, as men strive for right.” Isn’t the fact that you are “in-love” proves all you do,think and even say with/for/towards the person right? Well, what kind of praise? Haven’t you notice that there is freedom in the way the author loves? You may rationalize. But how come you should strive when there is freedom? I believe that the freedom in LOVE is so precious as it is not just picked-up somewhere but earned. How is it earned then? I remember a teacher once asked is there any difference between the term human and man. In the poem, maybe it is assumed that only man strives for right.
If what you have drives you to what is noble you may call it LOVE as the writer added, “I love thee purely, as they turn from praise.” Nobility may be something archaic and “being right” so vague but love indeed is not about your nostalgia satisfied, your eyes and senses being filled but it is always in the best service of others even if the other person himself is unsatisfied.I guess freedom here in loving is being free from pain and angst of pride and self-righteousness which is really humanly impossible but what is impossible with man is possible with GOD. I mean, HE asked us to learn from HIM for HE is gentle and kind. Experiencing His love will fulfill one’s longing heart however romantic love is an expression of His agape love in form, a picture of how HE give His life to His bride (the church) to the point of death.
This idea I am presenting is old even during the author’s time that she said “I love thee with a love I seemed to lose with my lost saints.” but it endures in the present. In fact, it is the only love that remains. Can you imagine two imperfect beings enjoying one another’s presence for life? Time will come maybe that I’ll be involve that kind of covenant. No matter how I try to find a perfect other, time will come I will no longer find any person as I saw him the first time. But as I experience ONE’s amazing grace amidst and surpassing my imperfection-I will yet love the person more. (That’s probably reason why I can’t find him yet- I just can’t do that even with a fair rating, JUST KIDDING???)
“I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life;”
How is that? I mean how frequent with the author love the same person (thee being singular)? As often as breathing yet off course there will be smiles and tears in their individual and unified life.I don’t think this as something too euphoric because smiles and tears in life indeed is normal and is in fact people involving, people like your family, current friends and colleagues. Romantic love is indeed different but if you cannot be honest with little, how can you be honest with much? (Toby, talk to yourself) The above listed related people to someone cannot be little but too much and one cannot bear additional too much blessing as joy and endurance with another…Everything is learned and again, what is impossible with man is possible with GOD. I mean, HE asked us to learn from HIM for HE is gentle and kind. Experiencing His love will fulfill one’s longing heart however romantic love is an expression of His agape love in form, a picture of how HE give His life to His bride (the church) to the point of death.
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and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.”
I want to be able to love everyone around me just like this, more so GOD…Loving better than to be loved better is such an exemplary love in every relationship, even as love was previously discussed….Yes, we will always fail…..Loving a person can be so much about us being well loved or us being so loving no matter how we try…When we see LOVE face to face and everything will be overshadowed by His Light, we shall be able to love not out of selfish need, a blood-tie, contract tie neither mere picture of the perfect love we will love unconstrained beyond self and a someone or a people perfectly. That maybe too far from now and I’d rather wait for it w/out expecting anyone greater than I expect for HIM….Lest HE surprise me with one 😀
Hi Gwenyth, masasabi ko lng lahat tayo ay makatapat pagdating sa pag ibig. hindi mo dapat i pag alala kung ano ang wala ka ngayon. Let just say everyone has there own story and I’m sure that God is just writing down your Love story right now. Hindi hinihintay yan sb nga dga “kapag lalong hinihintay lalong natagal”. Just enjoy being single and enjoy things that makes u happy and contented and one of this days malay mo makasabay mo sa jeep si true love or makaaway mo sa pila sa counter sa sm or rob. or mkatabi mo siya sa shed habang naghihintay ka ng masasakyan. Love doesn’t mean outer beauty kaya mong isipin n may mali sayo. dahil and taong mahal ka or mamahalin ka tatangapin ka kung sino ka man.. just enjoy your life Gwenyth…
God Bless 😀